Blog. It's taken five and a half years to fully comprehend that I simply can't
keep myself occupied the whole time and that those times when I feel
most alone or lonely are helping me to appreciate that I've still a way to
go to becoming self sufficient. It's actually liberating - perhaps the final
step to becoming truly independent. I'm being more responsible for
myself, delving deeper into what it is that sustains me and making it
happen. Hopefully no more listless times and greater contentment with
my lot. Jacquie Clarke
Susan Harrison wrote: I was so pleased to have listened to Merry Widows on Radio 4. I was widowed in April 2006 and 6 months later met a man, who I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Unfortunately it did not work out and at Christmas we parted. I now have the same feelings of bereavement that I had when Paul died. So instead of having a distance between grief I find myself in the same position. My emotions are up and down and I need to occupy every minute of the day. I am trying to relax and get on with things but find it hard. Listening to the radio programme and looking on this website has made me realise that it is ok to still feel like I do and I hope that one day I will wake up and think, yeah I feel happy and content. I think I will get there.
Susan Harrison wrote: Hello Jacquie,
I can't tell you how helpful this site has been for me. My emotions have been on a complete rollercoaster for the last two years. I am just taking stock now. Not quite there but have my choir, the walking and I am also taking up my drawing classes again. I now realise that I have not fully come to terms with my husband's death and that I have been clinging to someone that could not give me what I wanted. If I go through life on my own I think now I will actually survive. It does get lonely but if this is how its got to be, then be it. I have come back from a weekend away with the choir and I looked out of my sitting room window and saw the most magical sky. There are still things in this life that can amaze you.
Thank you for setting up this webiste.
Susan Harrison
Anthony DeVanney wrote: I was one of the Widowed friends who prepared a shoe box last year. As it was my first Christmas without my dear Betty, I fully intended to go abroad to some country where Christmas was not celebrated. Thanks to you Jacquie arranging the "Shoe Box Morning" it got me thinking about how important it was to face up to the reality of my situation, started to make me feel a bit more in the spirit of Christmas and, gave me the courage to stay at home, decorate the house in the way Betty used to and, as much as was possible under the circumstances, to enjoy the day and cook a large Christmas dinner even though it was just for one.
Many thanks for that "Wake-up Call" Jacquie, it was just what I needed!
Anthony DeVanney wrote: I was one of the Widowed friends who prepared a shoe box last year. Thanks to you Jacquie suggesting I came to the hall that morning, it changed my whole outlook. As it was the first Christmas without my dear Betty, I fully intended to go to some country where Christmas was not celebrated. Being involved that morning put me in a more Christmas like frame of mind and I decided to face the reality of my present situation and make of Christmas the best I could. I decorated the house in similar fashion to how Betty used to (hope she would have been proud!) and even cooked a full roast Christmas dinner with all the trimmings - even though just for one.
Thank you Jacquie for giving me the "Wake-up Call" I needed to kick start me into action, I am forever grateful.
Anthony DeVanney wrote: I did not get my first laptop until I was in my 60's. Having used a computer at work - often locking up and causing mayhem at head office - my eyesight started to deteriorate rapidly. I was often doing spreadsheets for hours and then viewing radars - now in computer form. I was glad to retire and leave them behind. Now I have a laptop and am learning new things all the time, even starting to use email daily, live messenger and skype. I cannot believe this is the same person who was so glad to leave computing behind when I retired 12 years ago!!!!
Anthony DeVanney wrote: "What do we do with the house" made me revisit some of the comments made to me soon after my bereavement, such as "when are you going to downsize" "the house will be too big for you on your own" "the garden will be too big for you to look after". The fact that my wife and I had spent 25 of our 40 years together in this house and there were all the memories in it - it was the only property we ever bought - never seemed to occur to others. They thought they were doing me a favour by suggesting I move and it would help me "get over my loss". I am very happily ensconced in "our" house with no intention, God willing, of moving for the foreseeable future. I have plenty time to look after the garden as my time is my own. Resist any pressure in the early days is my advice, don't do something in haste that you may regret later.
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