WELCOME TO WIDOWED WORLD

13 October 2008

Greetings,

It’s just a year since I moved from my cottage and I have to admit to a few pangs of nostalgia. Driving past in the dark for the first time this autumn, the lighted kitchen window left me feeling that my life was still continuing there, going on as it had for so many years before and that all I had to do was walk up the drive, turn the key in the lock and walk in for everything to be as it was.  But of course, one can never go back.   

Friends say I’ve changed a great deal in the last year or so, my brother says I have a new found confidence and have grown out of much that represented my former life. Life is certainly evolving at a pace right now with most evenings full to the point where a quiet weekend is actually quite enjoyable. Invited by a friend to supper, the first evening free was two weeks hence and that sent me thinking about how important it is to find a balance between new activities, new friends and those dear people who gave me so much love and support throughout my husband’s long illness and over the past four years since he died.

One thing that’s still causes problems is the inability to remain focused and attentive – my mind continually wandering unless very actively engaged. I’m told I get a glazed look – nobody at home!  Mental confusion only reappears when I’m really tired and long term memory is as good as ever, but remembering what I did thirty seconds ago is more difficult. Apparently to ‘remember,’ any event has to be memorable in some way so the more observant one is, the stronger the impression and recall more effective. Practising listening more intently and saying less may be the key!

Thanks to my brilliant son and grandson (his son), work is now well under way for the upgrading of the Sunday Scene website and you will see some changes in the near future.  With the demise of the Sunday Scene Breakfast Clubs the present name is no longer appropriate so we’ve been considering a new one.  With over six thousand unique (new) visitors in about eighteen months, the name and content of the site now needs to reflect a wider audience and a more general approach to widowhood so in due course it will become ‘Widowed World, but we’ll give you plenty of notice before the change takes place and until everyone gets used to the new name the website will still be accessible through ‘Sunday Scene’.

Keep cosy as autumn sets in.

Jacquie